How to Trust the Process: Turn Your Goals into Success
Trust the process. You’ve got to every day. No matter how hard life gets, you can’t afford to give up on your goals and dreams, even for just a second; however, you can’t always expect to reach your goals quickly. That’s the number one reason why so many people give up on their goals- they don’t get an immediate result and they don’t have the patience to keep chipping away. They let negative thoughts get the best of them. They let go of their trust in the process.
It’s time to take charge and enjoy every step you take on your journey towards success; otherwise, you’re going to feel miserable every day, which will stop you from ever achieving your dreams. It’s not exclusively your fault that you sometimes want to give up. Society plays a role in this by promoting instant gratification at all times. When everything around us is so instantaneous, how can we maintain our composure and keep the faith in our long-term hopes and dreams? By trusting the process. You may be wondering, “Trust the process meaning…” It can mean whatever you want it to mean, as long as you live in the moment and don’t live vicariously through the big goals you’ve set for yourself.
It’s not enough to set goals for yourself. A goal is nothing more than a concept. That’s why you’ve got to commit to your process at every single moment and take consistent action. The key to doing this is reframing your mind so that you view every day as a step towards your goal. Ask yourself at the beginning of every day, “What am I going to do today that will help me achieve X (the long-term goal)?” Don’t stop there. Ask yourself in the middle of your day, “What have I done so far today that will help me achieve X (the long-term goal)? What do I need to the rest of today that will help em work towards my goal?” Don’t even stop there. Every night, before you go to bed, ask yourself, “What did I do today that helped me achieve X (the long-term goal)? What will I do tomorrow that will help me achieve this goal?” You see, the only way to program your mind to consistently pursue your goals is to be relentless and hold yourself accountable at all times. Otherwise, your goal will never be anything more than a concept that eventually fades away into nothing. If you can alter your perspective, then you can get on the fast track to success.
Have you consistently been making your dreams and goals a reality? If not, you’ve got work on trusting the process.
Everyone sets goals. But as you probably know, they’re not easily achieved. If you have been feeling like this, don’t despair. It just means that you might need to re-think the type of goals that you’re setting.
You see, having lofty goals can fill us with anxiety. “I need to do this!” “I need to do that!” “I need to make this happen now!” Though your intentions are good, putting pressure on yourself can make you feel like you’re a failure in the present until your goals are achieved in the future. Worry and stress is a motivation killer, and it’s also an incentive to start looking for shortcuts, loopholes, and quick fixes. This is due to you emphasizing the end result inserted of focusing on today. If your only concern is having a better tomorrow, then you’re losing sight of today. And trusting the process has to start today. You can’t wait until your goals become reality to start trusting the process.
This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t focus on the future. You just shouldn’t let your anticipation of the future spiral out of control and make you feel miserable in the present-day. This is, once again, why you need to reprogram your mind to appreciate the time that you have every day and use it to your advantage to create process-oriented goals that guide you towards your big goals. One major way to reprogram your mind is to take the word “failure,” bring it to your nearest dumpster, and toss it. Failure doesn’t exist. Think about. Every time you’ve ever failed at anything in life, all you’ve done is learned a valuable lesson that’s helped you going forward and made you stronger. Stop thinking about failure. It’s just an over-used word that you don’t need. Your self-worth can’t be defined by it. Don’t focus on preventing failure. Only focus on becoming great.
Life is the process of becoming. What do you want to become?
That’s great you have goals. But have you taken the time to imagine and visualize the person that you want to become. If not, I want you to take a moment and imagine the future that you want. In your vision, ask yourself: Who am I? What do I do? What is my purpose? Now that you have the big picture in mind, you need a series of goals that will lead to the big picture. You’ve got to take the time to logically map out how you will become the person that you want to be. Otherwise, days will lead to months, months will lead to years, and next thing you know, you’ll have to recite the two saddest words in the English language: “If only…” Don’t let this happen. You can stop it from happening. But that starts today with reframing your mindset and setting clear goals and objectives that synchronize to lead you to your ultimate goal of being the person that you want to become.
If you want true success in life, and I mean true success, whether you define that as wealth or happiness or something else is up to you, but if you really want it, you’re going to have grab the bull by the hors everyday because no one’s going to give it to you. You’ve got to want it so badly that you can taste it. Everyone in the world would be successful if it were such an easy feat. But it’s not. Most people never reach the level of success that they desire. But that doesn’t mean you have to be like them. Once you’ve made a commitment to adjust your mindset and set doable short-term goals, then all you have to do is stay the course and trust the process. But this needs start now. The days of watching the paint dry are over. Remember, small steps in the right direction equal more process than staying stagnant and doing nothing.
Here are 5 tips to help ensure that you trust the process every day.
Many people unknowingly set lofty goals beyond their control. When this happens to somebody, he or she ends up fighting a losing battle that they’ll never be able to win. This is once again why must set daily goals and practice good habits; otherwise, your big picture will continue to be unreachable. You’re only in control of yourself, and when you trust the process, you’re not trusting that everything around you will work out. You’re trusting nothing other than yourself, in the present, that you’re doing all you can to stay the course and knock out your goals.
This concept applies to anything in life. Take dating, for instance. You can’t control when you’ll find Mr. or Ms. Right, all you can control is that you’re making the effort to find the right person. This is how it is with any goal that you have. You’ll never be able to control much of anything in this world. No one can. But you are in control of yourself right now, tomorrow, next week, and next year. Trusting the process means acknowledging that control cannot extend to anyone or anything. It only applies to you.
Part of being human is exploring the unknown. If this weren’t the case, you wouldn’t even be reading this article right now because no one would have conquered the unknown to create electricity, computers, phones, etc. For better or worse, the only constant in life is change. That’s why you’ve got to roll with it and trust the process. Think back to a time in your life where you didn’t know what would happen next and you were consumed by worry. Well, what happened? You adapted. And you can adapt to anything. You’ve just got to have nothing-can-stop-me mindset or else, every change you experience is going to be interpreted as negative.
Believe it or not, change is good. Not all of it, but overall, it’s for the best and helps our brains develop and stay strong. The amygdala and the orbitofrontal cortex are stimulated when humans are facing the unknown. Well, look at the unknown as an exercise, not just for yourself, but for the health of your mind. You don’t have to trust the unknown, but you should try to trust that you’ll be able to handle whatever comes your way. Turn destiny 2 trust by embracing the unseen.
Once again, if you go through life miserable because your hopes, dreams, and goals haven’t been reached, then you’re always going to be miserable. You’ve got to cut this out and focus on what’s in front of you. Who knows what the future holds? Do you have the same goals for your future that you had when you were five years old? Probably not, and you shouldn’t. But if you had lived every day from the age of five until now, completely dissatisfied that your goals weren’t being reached, you would have had a pretty bleak childhood. So, don’t do that to yourself now.
If you have trouble living in the moment, find things to be grateful for. Can’t think of any? Then you’re not thinking clearly. Remember, it’s a process, not an outcome; therefore, that process will be with you every moment of your life.
Failure is not a bad thing. Whatever you think that you failed at ultimately gave you a valuable lesson that no teacher or textbook could ever give you. Unfortunately, life has many ups and downs. That’s just the way it is. But is it necessary to call some of your downs, “failures?” Ask just about any successful person how they got to where they are today. Most of them are going to tell you that they only made it far because they failed many times. What separates them from others is that they converted their failures into fuel. They didn’t throw in the towel and give up. They trusted the process. You’ve got to do the same.
Just like ultra-successful people never let their failures bring them down, they also share another common denominator: they never stopped believing in themselves. Psychologists have even studied successful people and come to the conclusion that a person’s view of oneself ultimately determine their success. So, if you want to become successful, start thinking more highly of yourself and quit beating yourself ups hen things go wrong. The day you stop believing in yourself is the day that you concede your dreams and goals won’t happen. Never let that day come to fruition. Be self-confident. Do whatever it takes. If it means blasting Journey’s “Don’t Stop Believin” every single morning, go for it. The best way to ensure you keep believing in yourself is to accomplish your small goals, one-by-one, every day and week.
Trust your process. This is how you turn your goals into success.
If you only focus on the longterm goal, you’re setting yourself up for failure. Starting today, do all it takes to reprogram your mind to think positively and re-program your daily habits to be in sync with the goals that you want. Nothing is going to stop you other than yourself. And you can prevent this from happening by trusting the process.